When the phone buzzes at work a couple of times in a row with voice messages from your baby sister, you check it.
When her concerned voice asks you to call her back immediately, you do.
And then she has to tell you words a big brother doesn’t ever expect to hear.
Our middle sister passed away the night before. Frannie went into cardiac arrest. She was 50 years old.
Neither of us could really get our minds completely around this horrible news that Dory had just gotten herself down there on Long Island, where she’d arrived home from her overnight shift as a nurse to find that her phone was full of messages from brother-in-law Jack.
The plan already was for me to drive down there with my dear wife Karen, wonderful daughter Elisabeth and fantastic significant George Three on Saturday morning to attend the Mets-Nationals game with Dory, husband Jim and my niece and nephew, Erin and James. Karen urged the get-together for the game because it had been too long since all the Bialczaks had been in one place at the same time. But Frannie had told me Tuesday that she wasn’t feeling well enough for her and Jack to make it the 10 for which I’d purchased tickets. She was supposed to visit the doctor today for a check-up on a spine thing and leg nerve pain and an operation to help ease pain for both.
Now we’ll be driving down with another mission.
I was 8 when Frannie was born.
Dory came along two years later.
I protected them fiercely like a big brother should. I recall the ultimate compliment from my friends around the neighborhood and from beyond when they dropped by the Bialczaks. No, they cab stay. Your little sisters are cool.
They were still so young when I left for college at the age of 17 and never looked back to that particular house. I was the one to move away from Long Island. They stayed and met their spouses and never left The Island. But the sibling connection was strong. We had our moments for sure.
Over the decades, life gets complicated.
The memories of the good times will help, yes. A bit down the line.
Death makes it more simple. Frannie’s suffering is over. For me, though, first I will be sad.
Mark, I’m so sorry to read of your family’s loss. Praying for you all to find strength around and for each other as you celebrate your sister’s life. God bless you. Much love, Chum. xoxo
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Red, your words of support really help. We celebrated and got through the services and the long drive home, the four of us. Sigh. xxoo
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I only hit the like button to acknowledge that I read the post. Wonderful family photos ❤️ I am so sorry for your loss, Mark. Prayers & hugs for you & your family . . . 😢
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Thanks, Sadie. Your prayers and hugs are comforting, my friend. Very much. ❤
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Very sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
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Thanks, Apple Pie. Your kindness is appreciate, my friend.
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Mark, that was a beautifully written tribute. I am so sorry for your irreplaceable loss.
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Thanks for your kind words of support, my friend. I hope you and Donna are well, Fred.
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I’m sorry to hear of your loss, Mark. I’ve lost two sisters and two brothers, and a nephew, from my family.
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Thanks, Freeda. Sorry for your losses.
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So sorry for your loss, Mark! It’s always hard to see our loved ones go. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. Hugs, ༼ つ ◕_◕ ༽つ
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Thanks, Patricia. I really appreciate it.
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So young. Hugs to you and your family, Mark. Drive safely, please.
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Thanks so much, CM. We’re leaving in a bit, four of us in one car. I’m the driver, and I know the ways of the road down there. Knock on wood.
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Sending love and light to you and the family to support you through the loss and pain. Xo
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Thanks very much, Val. Much appreciated.
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So sorry for your loss. Hap and Chris Gasiorowski
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Thanks so much, Hap and Chris. See you soon.
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Mark, so very sorry for your loss. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
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Thanks so much, Kimi. I really appreciate it.
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So sorry Mark it is so hard to lose a loved one I lost my sister last year! Sending you love and sympathy!
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Thanks, Willow, and I am so sorry for your loss of your dear sister last year, my friend. ❤
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Sadly it is something we all must suffer! xxxxx
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Oh Mark I am so very sorry for the loss of your sister. Life can be so cruel sometimes. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Karen and also your family
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Thanks, Jo. Just when you think you’re sailing along for a few months … Hugs back to you and Brenda. See you very soon, my dear.
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Gee Terp this breaks my heart for you all. I can’t imagine what you are feeling-my 4 brothers are my special ones-good grief Mark. I am at a loss truly. Sending Sunshine Hugs to you. Gatorette.
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Thanks so much my Gatorette. Hugs to all of your siblings, OK? ❤
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xx I’ll give ’em big hugs this weekend! Gatorette
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My deepest sympathy to you &I your family Mark.
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Thanks, Jackie. I am going to see your daughter-in-law in a half-hour, in fact. She is going to make sure I look good for my trip to LI.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathies to you and your family.
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Thanks so much, Lorrie. I appreciate your words of support.
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Mark, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my sister six years ago and losing a sibling is one of those things, as you said, you can’t wrap your head around. I was the little sister that called my big brother 28 years ago today when my dad died….making or receiving those calls is just something that never leaves you….but it does soften with time. Be gentle with yourself and grieve as needed knowing your friends and family and some of us friends from the ether are sending you much love and support.
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I really appreciate you sharing your experience with this sense of loss, Katie. It’s a hard part of life for us, it is.
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Mark, I am sorry.
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Thanks, Martha. Appreciated.
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I am very sorry for your loss, Mark. It is harder to be left behind.”Frannie’s suffering is over.” is an important realization, the beginning of a sometimes rocky healing process. Hugs.
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Thanks so much, Karen. You are wise. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts.
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Dear Mark, Our thoughts and spirits are with you. This time of our lives is seeming to bring beginnings and endings much closer. Losing any family member is hard, but especially so a sibling. Sounds like you were a wonderful older brother. Big Hugs to you and Karen and family.
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Thanks, Donna. I know you know. Hugs to you and Sam from Karen and I.
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Mark, I’m so sorry. There are no words…
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Thanks my friend. You were there when she was born in Levittown, dude.
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I remember.
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Oh, Mark. 😦
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Thanks, Kerbey. Frannie had great faith. She’s up there.
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Such a comfort, that. And she must feel amazing right now, more than either of us could comprehend!
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🙂
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So, so sorry … I also have two younger sisters and one is also a Frannie.. I can only imagine your sorrow. From reading your blogs I know you have a wonderful family and my sincere condolences.
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Thanks, Mike, so much. Love your younger sisters my friend, like I know you do.
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Very sorry to hear your news, Mark. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.
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Thanks, Bruce. I really appreciate your words of support, my friend.
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Despite the conversation of commentary, in the anonymity of the blogiverse, it’s hard to imagine we are real people on the other side of the screen. But please know how sorry I am for your loss, and for the grief that Frannie’s family and your family must endure. Also know, that across the screens, you’ve got a different sort of family that’s all ears…eyes. You know what I mean.
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Thank you my friend and blogging family sister Fasci.
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So sorry for your, and your family’s, loss, Mark.
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Thank you Cathy. Your kind words are so helpful at this time.
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Oh no. I’m so sorry for your loss, Mark. ❤
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Thanks, Joey. You are a true friend, my dear. ❤
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I’m sorry for your loss, Mark. My thoughts are with you and your family during this time.
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Thanks, J, for always being here for me.
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It was hard to press the “like” button, Mark. I am so terribly sorry for your loss. As I read this post, I started to tear up, feeling your sorrow deeply. Take it easy dear friend. And some day, I would love to know more about your family, your sisters and Long Island. Both of my parents were from there and I think of it as a second home.
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Little by little stories will come out, Beth. I’m sure. Thank you so very much, my friend now in Cali.
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I’m so sorry Mark. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
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Thank you so much, my Syracuse buddy and blogging pal.
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I am so sorry for your loss. Not something you expect at that age.my heart goes out to you and your family. Best to you !!
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Thank you, Kirt. The way WordPress world is rallying is astounding to me. Much appreciated.
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So sorry, Mark. My condolences to you and your family.
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Oh, Scott, you are a true friend. Hug your three boys and wife today once for me, OK?
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Easiest thing in the world, Mark.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. Take care.
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Thank you, E. Very much appreciated.
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Oh Mark, My heart and prayers go out to you and your family. My sincere condolences.
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Thank you, Paul. I know you are here for me.
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Mark, my sincere condolences to you and to your entire family on the unexpected passing of your sister, Frannie! While each of us reacts in our own way to the loss of a beloved sibling, I have a sense of what you are going through having lost my only and younger brother back in 2012. Please accept my heart-felt condolences on your loss. I am also sending prayers and thought of comfort your way. May the pleasant memories of your sister eventually outweigh your grief. Keeping you, your dear wife Karen and your entire family in my thoughts and prayers at this most difficult time! God bless you and yours!
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Thanks for sharing your experience here, Mark. Sorry for your loss, too. Think of our sibling when you’re playing a song, good sir …
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Sending you all so much love. I am so very sorry. Xxx
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Thanks so much, Raphaela. You wishes mean the world.
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I am deeply sorry for your loss, Mark. You and your family are now in my prayers. Love and (((HUGS))) Amy ❤
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AmyRose, I know how powerful your prayers (and HUGS) are, my cuz from Buffalo. Thank you. ❤
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❤ (((HUGS))) ❤ I've been praying all day today, cuz!!! ❤
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So sorry for your loss Mark.
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Thanks, Bob. I know you met Frannie at the house on Seabrook Lane. 🙂
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Mark, I’m so sorry for your loss. 50 is way too young. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Hugs. ❤
Diana xo
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What a year for you and I Diana. Loss stinks. Sigh. Thank you my dear friend. ❤
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sending strength and love!
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Losing Dad was hard but I can’t imagine losing my brother. 😦
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Decades from now, Diana …
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I’m so sorry!!
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Thanks, West. Take one of your beautiful photos with Frannie in mind, OK? ❤
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I sure will!! ❤ ❤
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Dear Mark,
I am so sorry for your loss. I’ve lost both of my sisters and I know, more than I’d like, what you are going through. This song has helped me enormously — We become birds when we die. I imagine Judy as a mockingbird and Beth as a Carolina wren.
May you soon be able to think of Frannie with more smiles than tears.
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Elyse, you are so wonderful for this. Frannie is soaring with Judy and Beth, I know it. Beautiful@
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wow – the pictures you selected really added something and sending you and the Family blog hugs 💙💙💙
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Thanks so much, Y. Yes, going through my Family file on the iPad helped some, my friend. ❤
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💙💙
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So sorry for your loss Mark
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Thanks so much, Ritu. Support from the other side of the pond, too. Wow.
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No pond on the WWW!!!! But truly. I hope you are ok
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Yes, we are doing the best we can, Ritu. Figurative pond, of course.
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😊
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I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.
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Thank you so much, my friend Benson.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. Grace and peace to your family in the coming days.
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Tony, your words of support are much appreciated. Thank you, my friend.
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I am so sorry Mark. Thinking of you
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Oh, my downstate friend, we will be driving right past your neighborhood. Thank you, Lisa.
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hugs Mark ❤
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This is not the way your family weekend had been planned, Mark. I’m so sorry. Thinking of you. 💔
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Thanks, Van. Family life sure gets us, as I know you know as well. ❤
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I am so very sorry Mark for both you and your family. I am lost for words and understand that really nothing can be said other than we are thinking of you at this time 😦 ❤
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Thanks to you and Calvin, Mabel Jane. It means a lot to us. ❤
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Mark, I’m so sorry for your loss. I have siblings, and I can’t imagine what you’re going through. I hope the love and life of your sister helps you through.
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It will be a process, MBC. Thanks for your friendship through life.
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You’re welcome MBM. ❤
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I’m so sorry for your loss, Mark.
Love,
Ann
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You are a good friend, Ann. All of your support is a blessing. ❤
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i am so very sorry for the loss of your lovely sister. and for all of those who were touched by her will be forever changed by her loss. frannie will be dearly missed, i am sure of that. hugs to all –
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Thank you, Beth. Living normally as possible until services Sunday.
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